I agree the grief process for a beloved animal companion is hard. My first and only cat passed in 2020, at nearly 19 years old. She had alternately lived with me and a friend/housemate of mine who was technically her original “owner.” She was rescued from a shelter as a kitten that someone had adopted but, for reasons I’ll never understand, brought back. She was missing a hind leg, which I couldn’t see when she poked her nose through the cage door and meowed at me as I walked by her cage at the shelter. They thought she was probably born that way, but she could run like lightning and lived a completely normal life, only not being able to jump as high as most cats. When they took her out of the cage, that was it, leg or no leg – she’d chosen me and vice versa.
At one point, when I moved from the States to the UK for a few years (where her original owner was, by then, living), I went through the long, complicated process of bringing her into the UK. I ended up back in the States, but she spent the rest of her days with my friend in England.
When she passed, I hadn’t seen her in several years. That was hard and still is. I felt terrible for my friend, and for not being able to see her in her last few years. And all this was going on at the height of the scamdemic craziness, with me in the U.S. and him in England. I felt I had to do something, so I looked around online and came upon the Old Blue Cross Pet Cemetery in London, near Greenwich. (The photos on their current website don’t do it justice.) It’s a small “park,” typical of the enclosed little green spaces you find dotted around London, with an interesting history. It’s no longer an animal cemetery, but they have a wall in the park where people can place memorial plaques for deceased pets. Thanks to the kindness and efforts of the chairwoman of The Friends of the Pet Cemetery, an association that looks after the park, I was able to arrange for a memorial plaque to be placed for our cat.
So grief, yes. But also gratitude for the immense love and joy she brought to two people’s lives.